Recinded Referrals...

I really need to stay out of the Adoption Groups. Now I've read that you can loose your referral. Even *after* you get to China. While this may be rare or "few and far between", it's *still* a possibility. Everyone keeps saying this is a "sure thing", but how can you totally believe it when you've already experienced so much loss and grief already? Until my child's feet are firmly planted on US soil, I will not feel at ease about this process.